One of my church members called me last year, lonely and frustrated that God hadn’t delivered her a husband. Never married and 40, she was tired of praying, waiting and seeking confirmation from the lord. I remember so many men came into her life but she turned them down because they were not her class and she believes God will bring her Chosen husband.

Here are some Reasons why you are not married yet

1. You are looking for Mr. perfect

You want a rich, well-built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God-fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman from a good background who has a good job, drive a good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that perfect guy you watch in a movie doesn’t exist. You’ll never find a perfect guy – anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect.

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2.Waiting for God to bring your Husband

Marriage is not a predetermined process that happens mysteriously. If you believe that, you’ll get easily frustrated: if God arranges marriages, then why doesn’t He stop divorce? God lets us make the decision to love and the decision to leave. It is good to pray for a good husband but I’m sorry  God may not bring your husband to your room. Wake up, my dear sister.

3. Your standard of measurement is askew

There’s nothing wrong with having a standard for your future husband but some of these standards are unrealistic. You want a guy who is holy, meanwhile, you are not a virgin. Your Highest educational level is a High school certificate but you are waiting for a doctorate degree holder.

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4. You’re not appreciative

He sacrifices for you, buys you expensive things, calls you every day and sometimes pays your bills and other expenses, yet you don’t appreciate. Very soon he will get tired of you.

5. You look desperate

Your parents and friends are asking you frustrating questions about marriage, and you are so sick of those questions so you’ll do anything to get the next available guy to marry you. You need a man so badly. The first time you send her out for a dinner, she will ask you when will you come to see my parents. Well, let me tell you, the more desperate you are, the less attractive men find you.

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6. You are not submissive

(Future)Wives, submit yourselves to your own (future)husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NIV). If you can’t be submissive whiles dating, you can’t be submissive when He marries you.

7. You’re not supportive

Let’s be transparent, every man including me wants a woman who will support him not only financially but also emotionally. A man wants a woman who helps boost his ego, listens to him and encourages him. So, if you can’t support him, forget that engagement/wedding ring.

8. You pay too little attention to your appearance

You wear excessive make-up, your dressing is too awful, you don’t have a good hygiene. Haven’t you been told that men are visually stimulated? Don’t think your true partner will love you no matter how you dress.

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9. You ask for too much

There’s nothing wrong for you to ask your partner for something. But there are some things you need to do on your own. Some ladies would ask for almost everything including her underwear, earring, call card. Show him you can take care of the family and the kids; when he’s out. A guy just asked you out and you want to burden him with all your family issues.

10. You don’t have a job

Well, the gospel truth is that, due to the unstable economy, every man wants a woman who is at least doing something on her own to support herself and the family so that you would not burden him with all your needs. Don’t depend on a man all the time. Ladies should learn to be independent. it is not pride but Self Respect.

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11. You’re always mean

You’re too boring, You hardly smile. You hardly play. You’re just too difficult. You excuse yourself by saying “I’m the quiet type”. Being an introvert is different from being boring. No man looks forward to a boring home.

12. You pay too much attention to your appearance

The fact that men are visually stimulated doesn’t mean they are unreasonable. Some men may make an awkward choice of a sex partner, but when it comes to a life partner, men are painstakingly selective. If not, you’d be married by now. Every man dreams of marrying a decent lady, not some bitch who won’t mind going naked on the street to get cheap attention.

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You may be single for life. The reality is not everyone gets married. Some people are called to be single. If that’s the case, you can still have a joyful and meaningful life.

One of the main reason why you are not married is that you are too selective. You reject guys because they have a big head, short, not prayerful. A lady even rejected me simply because of my name( diawuo).


Do you really think there are perfect guys out there? Do we choose our partner or God chooses our partner for us? Scroll down and please leave a comment!

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