People have the right to think and say whatever they want to say about you. Let that be their business. People can say whatever they choose to say and we have no predominance over that. This doesn’t mean that you don’t care about other people! It doesn’t mean that you are conceited, narcissistic, or self-absorbed. It means that you aren’t going to allow what others think about you to disempower you. “What will people say” This statement has killed more dreams than anything else in the world.
What people think and say about you is none of your business
1. People will always find something to talk about
The fact of the matter is that people will always find something or someone to talk about. They will always convey their opinions and cast out those who they feel are weak, misfits or simply don’t “fit in” with others because of they’re too fat, too skinny, too dark, too white, too religious, too fanatical, too smart, too dumb, or whatever have you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. People will always find someone to talk about.
2. Know that chasing approval is a waste of energy
Here’s the thing about being liked by everyone; much like a dog chasing its own tail, it’s a complete waste of time and energy. There are some people in life who, no matter what you do, will simply not like you. It’s a sad reality but in accepting that chasing approval leads you nowhere, it can also set you free. At the end of the day, the only acceptance we should be chasing is self-acceptance.
3. What is good for someone might not be good for you
Everything about our lives is different. We’re the product of different experiences, different upbringings, different values and beliefs, and so on. Yet, we base our sanity on those same opinions of others. We allow that to dictate how we feel at any given moment.
Are we happy because someone approves of one of our decisions? Or, are we sad, because others disapprove? Why should their opinion be the right opinion? Why should what’s good for them, also be good for you? What is it about these negative people, and why do we allow it to so deeply affect us?
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It’s literally preposterous to please everyone. No matter what decision you make, someone is going to be upset. Someone is going to have an opinion of which path you follow or which direction you choose.
They don’t know all the things that you’ve been through. They don’t know why you made that decision over another. So, why is their opinion the right opinion? It’s not. It’s subjective. You’re doing the best for you and your family. That’s all that matters.
5. Determine what you can control
In reality, there are many things in life you have zero control over. You can’t force your partner to change. When you find yourself worrying, take a minute to examine the things you have control over. You can’t control how someone else behaves, but you can control how you react. Remember you can’t prevent the bird from flying over your head, and you can’t control how other people feel or think about you.
6. Focus on your influence
You can influence people and circumstances, but you can’t force things to go your way. So while you can give your child the requisite tools he needs to get good grades, you can’t make him get A1 in all his subjects.
To have the most influence, focus on changing your behavior. Be a good role model and set healthy boundaries for yourself.
7. Appreciate the fact that you can’t control someone else’s opinion
Let’s face it, everyone has an opinion. But those that succeed know that they have a choice as to whether they choose to listen or not.
No matter how trustworthy, extrovert, motivated, serious, decisive, and hardworking you are some people will perceive you as arrogant and may not like you. Understand that no matter what you will do there are some people who may not like you. In my view this is normal.
One of my mates wanted to start a photography business, but His biggest fear was” what will my mate say when they see me with the camera?” At the end of the day, this is your future and you shouldn’t let what someone is saying stop you from reaching your goal. Someone will always be judging you, whether you do something big or do nothing at all. So wouldn’t you rather be judged doing what you really want to do?
The hard truth is that not everyone will like you.
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